Read Aaron Lazare’s requirements for an effective apology. These attempted apologies and expressions of consolation failed to elicit. Aaron Lazare, M.D., a noted scholar on the psychology of shame and humiliation, offers a thoroughly engaging and lucid examination of an important and. On Apology, by Aaron Lazare. New York, Oxford University. Press, , pp., $ What a pleasure to read a book by a prominent psychiatrist.

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Without an apology, it is difficult to imagine forgiveness accompanied by reconciliation or restoration of a trusting relationship.

InLomax discovered that his nemesis was alive and was writing about his repentance and his desire to be forgiven for his wartime activities. The act of forgiveness is less work – but forgiveness and apology are intertwined and only satisfyingly effective when they’re together.

When it is sincere, it is not apologt end but a new beginning. Everybody on earth could benefit from this small but essential book. Such an admission is not a threat so long as they feel good about themselves and feel that THEY are not a mistake.

We can only hope that current and subsequent administrations in the United States, Iraq, and other nations can, in the decades ahead, acknowledge their offenses, express their remorse, and offer reparations for acts committed during wartime. Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read.

On Apology

If only I could write this well. They also help assure the offended party that the offense will not recur, and they allow the offender to make ln that he should have known better. We need your help to keep the “science of a meaningful life” coming.


Lazare answers all these questions in this fascinating volume. Jun 28, Thomas DeWolf rated it it was amazing Shelves: Lazare states that the world may finally be realizing it needs the act and the art of the apology more than ever. The strength of this book rests in the stories of apologies that Lazare has collected from people, politics, literature and history.

Kirk Ashworth rated it really liked it Aug 06, The act of apologizing is quite simply immensely fulfilling. So much has been written in recent years about no need for forgiveness. In other situations, where the unrepentant offender shows no signs of remorse or change of behavior, forgiveness can be useful, but reconciliation would be foolish and self-destructive.

Jul 04, Carmen rated it it was amazing Recommends it for: Forgiveness comes spontaneously; the victim feels like his offender has released him of a burden or offered him a gift.

I wish the book focused more on these issues. Write a customer review. David Brock to Anita Hill.

In April oftelevised photographs revealed to the world the abuse of Iraqi prisoners held by the United States military in the Abu Aarln prison. Buy the selected items together This item: Neither President Bush nor Condoleezza Rice accepted such responsibility.

On Apology – Aaron Lazare – Oxford University Press

He was a leading authority on the medical interview, the psychology of shame and humiliation, and apology. Lazrae providing specific examples of how nations and individuals have apologized for their offenses in the past, he offers the optimistic idea that offending parties have made an ongoing commitment to change their behavior In this book, Aaron Lazare, M.


Lazare is also fascinated with and deeply delves into the idea of apologies that take place decades or centuries after an offense. By apologizing, the offending party reaffirms his or her commitment to the rules and values implicit in the relationship by saying, in essence, “I really am the person you thought I was. She writes, “Allowing a hero to humiliate himself before a wronged woman would render him awkward, wimpish, embarrassing, and lacking in sex appeal – in a word, unmanned.

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As a Christian and a Pastor this book offered some very profound insights into reconciling lazafe. If you are a seller for this product, would you like to suggest updates through seller support? Indeed, the author offers a wide-ranging dissection of the apology.

When the offense causes damage or loss of a tangible object, the reparation is usually replacement or restoration of the object. Lazare also talks about ‘false’ apologies a lot, and why they are so unsatisfying. For an example of this type of apology, it is useful to compare the Abu Ghraib incident with another case of prisoner abuse and its aftermath.